Perimenopause is often described as a transition, but for many, it feels like a complete upheaval. Mood swings, brain fog, exhaustion, and a sudden shift in how the body functions can leave people wondering what happened to their sense of stability. For those of us who are neurodivergent, this phase of life can feel even more intense.

Many relationship expectations in our society are based on Neurotypical ways of thinking, communicating, and connecting. For Neurodivergent couples, where one or both partners are Autistic, have ADHD, or have other Neurodivergent traits, these norms can create unnecessary tension and misunderstanding. Instead of trying to fit into Neurotypical relationship standards, Neurodivergent couples benefit from developing their own ways of communicating, showing affection, and solving conflicts.

Have you ever walked into a crowded store and immediately felt overwhelmed, your brain scrambling to process the bright lights, the hum of conversations, and the shifting movement of people around and close to you? Or maybe someone asks, “How was your day?” Instead of summarizing, you replay every little detail, struggling to filter out what matters.

For many women and AFAB (assigned female at birth) folx who menstruate, keeping track of their menstrual cycle can seem like just another task in an already packed schedule. But, for those of us who are ADHDers and Autistic, understanding the phases of our cycle and how these can directly impact our mental health, energy levels, executive functioning, and relationship with food is not just beneficial; it’s essential.

Diet Culture and the Belief that Smaller Bodies Automatically Equal ‘Healthy.’ The Perspective from Someone in a Bigger Body, and as Someone Who Works in the Eating Disorders Field.

We live in a society that values thinness. We strive for it constantly because we are told it is more acceptable, and ‘healthier,’ despite this diet culture narrative, many health professionals ask each other, is this completely true? I would argue, no.

What questions to ask a potential therapist to see if they are actually ADHD/Autism affirming?

As an AuDHD therapist, I’ve been on both sides of things when it comes to therapy. I’m a big believer that we as therapists need to continue doing our own work, so always promote therapists going to a therapist (but that can be a topic for another day).